It seems impossible to think that Freddie died 39 years ago on this day, November 24, 1991. His mum lived another 35 years with just her memories and the music of Queen surrounding her. Jer spoke very rarely about her famous son, although she gave a short but moving filmed interview before she passed away on November 13, 2016, talking about her pride and pain. She also described the heartbreaking final time she saw Freddie at his West Kensington home.
Freddie’s dear friend and live-in PA, Peter Freestone, described the last time the star’s family was allowed to visit, less than a week before his death.
Peter wrote in his biography of Freddie: “Bomi and Jer, his parents, and his sister Kash arrived with her husband Roger and their two children, arriving early in that week for afternoon tea.
“While directing events from the bed, with superhuman effort he was able to entertain them for some two or three hours. This was still Freddie protecting them, making them believe that there was nothing for them to worry about.
We brought up the tea, which included home-made sandwiches and shop-bought cakes. Little did any of know that this would be the last time that they would see Freddie alive.”
Peter added: “Although they wanted to return later in the week, Freddie categorically denied himself and them another meeting.
“He didn’t want to put them through further suffering by them seeing him as bad as he was… Was there anything more for them to say to him?”
Jer, herself, also spoke of her son’s constant protectiveness of his family, even at that last meeting.
She said: “He asked, ‘Are you all right? Did any of the media worry you?’ We said: ‘Don’t worry about us, dear’.
“He was so ill and still he was being so caring.”
Indeed, Freddie’s health had deteriorated quite severely and rapidly as the week went on. By the Saturday he had slipped into a coma and finally lost his battle with AIDS just before 7pm on the Sunday.
Had Jer realised her son was dying the last time she saw him? “Of course,” she said. “He didn’t have to say anything. I knew he was very ill.”
Jer said that neither his sexuality nor his illness were ever talked about: “He protected us by never discussing these matters. It is quite different now, but back then it would have been very hard for him to tell us and we respected his feelings.”
Jer spoke movingly abojut how she found her peace with what had happened.
She said: “It was a very sad day when he died in November 1991, but according to our religion when it is the right time you cannot change it.
“You have to go. God loved him more and wanted him with Him and that is what I keep in my mind.
“No mother wants to see her son die, but, at the same time, he has done more for the world in his short life than many people could do in 100 years.”
Jer also found comfort in Freddie’s enduring legacy at the end of her life: “His passing doesn’t seem more than 20 years ago. I still feel he is around because his music is played so often.”
One song in particular held special memories for her: “I went to the shops and I was very excited. They were all around the shops you know, Bohemian Rhapsody, Queen…
“I got one and I was so pleased with myself that I am buying something of my son’s first Number 1 record. Of course, it hurts me now when I hear the song. It hurts…”
While she was proud of the band’s extraordinary success and touched by how deeply Freddie’s fans adored him, she added: “None of them love him as much as his mother.”